Divorcing a Narcissist
Divorce is almost always stressful, but it can be even more difficult when your spouse has a narcissistic personality. The traits of this particular personality can mean your spouse will try to create conflict and make the divorce as difficult as possible for you every step of the way. It is challenging to stand your ground and fight for your rights when dealing with a narcissist, even if you have been married for years. It is critical to have an experienced divorce attorney on your side who can help you stand up to the narcissist and not give up the property, child custody, or support to which you are entitled.
TRAITS THAT CAN COMPLICATE A DIVORCE
In many cases, spouses realize that cooperating and compromising can save time, money, and stress during a divorce. However, narcissism makes this very difficult – or even impossible. Some common narcissistic traits include:
- • Inflated self-importance and belief of superiority;
- • Excessive entitlement;
- • Expecting recognition and admiration;
- • Belittling people;
- • Expecting others to comply without question;
- • Not recognizing the feelings or needs of others;
- • Reacting with anger or vengeance when they do not get what they want;
- • Masking secret feelings of insecurity or shame; and
- • Being a jerk just to be a jerk.
Narcissists believe they are always the victim, even when they may have caused most of the problems in the marriage themselves. This unwavering, unfounded manufactured feeling of victimhood, mixed with an inflated sense of self, results in extreme entitlement. Because the narcissist believes they have done no wrong, they believe they are entitled to more of everything in a divorce, including money, property, or custody.
Narcissists lack empathy for others and often, will not hesitate to belittle, accuse, or start unnecessary conflicts. When narcissists believe they are not getting everything they want in a divorce, they react with irrational anger and try to “get back” at their spouse through the divorce process.
Even though the conflict in a divorce with a narcissist is often unilateral, it can unnecessarily delay divorce proceedings and inflate costs by constantly going to court. Narcissists can also try to be master manipulators and will try to use their schemes during the divorce process to bully a spouse to back down or give up. If you are facing this situation, you need an attorney who can see the situation from an outside perspective and who will stand up for your rights.
AFTER THE DIVORCE
Most people move on from divorce within a few years, though narcissists usually never let go. This can make co-parenting and enforcing court orders very difficult for years to come. If your narcissistic ex-spouse is refusing to comply with your divorce judgement, you should not hesitate to contact our law firm for help with enforcement or modification when needed.
DISCUSS YOUR SITUATION WITH A TRUSTED FORT WORTH DIVORCE LAWYER TODAY
The Law Office of J. Kevin Clark, P.C. handles all types of divorce cases involving many unique circumstances. If you want to learn more about our services, please call 817.348.6723 or contact us online.